Monday is the first session with the adoption agency, and I have been thinking a lot about it. Even though it is simply an informational meeting with other parents, it symbolizes the first step finally taking place.
I was starting to think about whether we would be the only same-sex couple in the session, and how that would make me feel. Suddenly I got my regular email from Today’s Parent magazine.. and I took it as a sign. The article the email promoted was entitled “Cute Kids’ Books About Queer Families”. It was a great moment because it showed me that a main stream parenting magazine such as Today’s Parent, is now recognizing families like ours. I had subscribed for the amazing articles etc. but it was great to finally see us in this article.
One book in particular Stella Brings the Family, by Miriam B Schiffer , talks about the situation where Stella isn’t sure if she should bring her Papa or her Daddy to the Mother’s Day party at school. It occurred to me that when I was in school, we would always do special projects for Mother’s day. What would happen in our situation? Would R and I just divide the days? One would get Mother’s Day and one would get Father’s Day?? Interesting that I hadn’t thought of it before.
For all of my teacher friends out there, have you encountered this type of situation before? How do you handle it? To avoid confusion we already know that I will be Daddy and R will be Dad.. but I hadn’t thought about the Mother’s Day situation.
Regardless, I was very proud that Today’s Parent produces articles for families like ours and I am even more glad that I have a subscription.
As the dynamics of families change, I am hopeful that the school divisions are more mindful of types of families and adjust accordingly.
Thanks Today’s Parent for getting me thinking, and for including families like ours in your magazine.