So my plan was to keep it all a secret. Don’t tell a soul. The secret? We are having Lily’s ears pierced on Saturday. Why keep it a secret? Parent shaming is at an all time high in my opinion. People will judge every choice you make as a parent. When Kylie Jenner posted a picture of Stormi with her ears pierced, the internet lit up. “You have taken away your child’s right to choose”. “You should have waited until she could consent to body modification”. Ok, I get it. I see both sides of the issue. Don’t picket my house with burning torches. It was the same struggle I had when trying to determine if we should circumcise Conor. In the case of circumcision, however, it isn’t easily reversed if he decided he didn’t want it. So we left that choice to him later on.
For us the choice to do it now is the fact that I can control how and where it is done, and I am the one responsible for the post care. I have little doubt that Lily would not want it later in life, and if she doesn’t she can take them out.
Yes, it isn’t necessary to do. I am, however, exercising my parental discretion.
In making the decision I researched best options, materials etc. We are having them done at Skin Dimensions, which is a professional piercing shop. On staff, they have a female professional that specializes in baby ear piercing. Yes there is such a thing. They use single use sterilized needs and the earrings are implant grade, which eliminates the fear of allergic reaction. In my research, going to a professional piercing establishment is seen as the best option. You are dealing with professionals that abide by strict rules of cleanliness and sterilization (make sure you research a reputable piercer). The needle they use is hollow and it reduces any pain. This is in stark contrast to say going to the mall and having a 17 year old girl at Claire’s use a piercing gun. A piercing gun actually piercing using blunt force, which just shoots the blunt earring through the lobe. Having had my original piercings done this way.. no thank you. Not only is it painful, but the sound of the gun and the high school part time worker likely isn’t the best option.
Yes, I have made this choice for Lily. For us it is the right one, and I can and will make sure she is safe and they are well taken care of. Of course pics to follow on my Instagram, and a follow up piece on how it went.